……I wasn’t expecting Jason,I was surprised to see him,especially the way I was,,,,you don’t have to feel that way,,,you owe yourself happiness,,,come out of your shell,,, live your life again,he had said,,Jason please,I am not really in the mood for a conversation,, Ade,I love you,I really do,please give me a chance to be part of your life and give you the love you truly deserve, ,Jason please we are better of as Friends, I do not need a committed relationship now, please,,, I said,,,,okay then, I am willing to wait as long as it takes,,,,he said.
Lanre and Sandra were doing wonderful as a couple,my joy knew no band,I was really happy for them,, Sandra was already expecting their first baby,,she was the very lazy type in pregnancy, I was always going to help her out…Ade,its been almost a year,don’t you think you should give love a chance,at least, Jason is there, there is no harm in trying,, maybe,just maybe he could be the one you are made for,, I really want to see you happy in the hands of a good man,,,please,Sandra said,,, but Sandy,I do not feel anything for him,I like him as a friend and as a person, but as a lover,I don’t,I said,that’s because your mind is still preoccupied, don’t tell me you are still in love with ID,,,,Sandra you are my friend,more like my sister,,,you know I can never lie to you,,there is still a place in my heart for ID,, I don’t know why,I have tried several times to let go,but it is difficult,,, Ade I know how you feel,but ID do not deserve your love,you loved him with your whole heart,but he treated you like trash,don’t tell me you have forgotten all that guy did to you,,, no Sandra, I haven’t ,but something in me still long for him,,,Ade tell that thing in you to stop, remember ID and may are together, they even have a child now,,you two are divorced, that will make you a mistress should you start anything with him,,,,I thought about it for some time,indeed that is the fact,I can’t be a mistress to a man I was once legally married to…..
I decided to forget ID, and give Jason a chance….
Jason and I weren’t really of one mind,,we have different opinions on everything, I liked what he hate, he liked what I hate,,we were simply put world apart,,,,My relationship with Jason was a year and some months,and nothing has really changed,I was just struggling with the whole thing,I decided to stop fooling myself,,, I called him one evening,I told him I wanted to have a word with him,,he asked we met in a quiet place in town.Jason,we have both given our best to this relationship,I started,,, but you and I know it isn’t working,,we have tried our best to make it a success but all to know avail,,don’t youuuu,I know where you are coming from ,he interrupted me politely,,, I also know we both have been trying our best to make this work,,,but all to no avail,,,I get you,we aren’t meant to be,I sincerely appreciate your giving us a chance and trying,,,,he hugged me tightly,,,, thank you Jason, tanks for understanding,,, but please I do not want to lose you as a friend,you are such an amazing fellow,,of course Ade,you won’t, you are amazing too,and I won’t want to lose a friend like you,,,, we ate and discussed life in general, we were so free now,laughing like teenagers,indeed not all men In ones life are meant to be lovers, some are beautiful friends,like lanre and Jason,,,Jason and I didn’t work as lovers, we have tried having sex sometimes, but it didn’t happen,Jason decided to give me time,until I was ready,but I never was,,,Today we are back to being good friends,,,he drove me home,and promised to be a true Friend…
Getting home I felt a burden was off my chest,indeed lying to oneself is a difficult task,,,I called and told Sandra everything that had happened, she was happy I and Jason were still cool even after the breakup,she prayed I find peace of mind,and find whatever I was looking for,thanks Sandra,and take care of my God daughter, Bisola..
I knew I still loved ID,but there was no hope of being with him anymore, its been more than two years since I last saw him,that’s the day he came to ask for money ….
I begged God to take his thoughts away,and help me find my true love again..
My son is almost 6,he’s growing fast and was doing great,,,it was the summer holiday,I decided to travel to abuja and spend the holidays with him,my son was very happy to see me,,he’s so handsome, and a complete replica of his father,,, after some weeks,I decided we went to Benin to visit his grandparent…
Are you sure you want to do this my child ,daddy asked,dad,he’s their grandson, even though I and ID didn’t end things well,Raymond is still his son, and I promised Iye and baba that I shall keep them in touch with their grandson,,,
What if you meet ID there, mother asked,,,I didn’t think about that really,,,well mom,I didn’t go there for him,,,I have no business with him,,,,okay my child, you are a full grown woman,and a mother, I know you know what’s best for your son….Tanks mom,thanks dad,I survived all these because of an amazing parent like you,how I wish all parent will stand by their daughters going through marital difficulties like you two did, I am blessed to have you,,we had a group hug..
It was two days,I and Ray were on our way to Benin,,,,soon we arrived,,,Iye and baba were very happy to see us,,, Osas had gone for service,Itohan was already engaged, and wedding bells were ringing,I met everyone, they were so happy I remembered them, and I had come visiting,,, Iye and baba were proud of the woman I have become,and how well my parents were taking care of Ray,,,, they place a call to my parents, and thanked them for all their support and care…Three days after we arrived I asked after ID, but no one had seen him,the last time we saw him was almost three years ago,when he came with that pregnant Lady, and her kids,we didn't allow them in,so they left,since then, we haven’t seen idahosa,baba said,,,
My daughter you will have a man in your life now right, Iye asked, iye I don’t, I couldn’t love anyone else, I tried being in a relationship, but it didn’t work,,,,it is well my child, you are such a golden child, if you and ID are meant to be it will be,but if not ,God will bring a man that will love you endlessly, and that you will love right back…I hugged her tightly… We stayed a week and some days with them, and we returned back to Abuja,,,,,the holidays were over,school had resumed, I stayed an extra week to experience school runs,and then came back to the office in Lagos….
Iye’s words kept ringing in my ears,”if you and ID are meant to be,it will be,but if not,God will bring a man that Will love you endlessly and that you will love right back”…I decided to turn it into a prayer,that God should bring the man for me ,that man he has ordained as my husband,,, I prayed about it for seven days,,on the seventh day as I was coming from work,the traffic was terrible as usual, I decided to cut corners,and use some streets I know,,then I saw this fruit shop,I knew I would need some fruit, to break my fast,since the ones I had at home won’t be enough,,,,I stopped by to get some,but the seller wasn’t there, the guy next shop selling yams called him,Omobenin you no go come sell market,,madam waiting you wan buy,the seller asked,that voice sounded familiar, I turned and he was Idahosa,,
immediately he saw me,he ran away,out of shame I guess,omobenin,you no go come sell ,where you dey go,the man shouted oblivious of what happened,,,, I entered my car and drove off..
Getting home I couldn’t stop thinking about ID and his pitiable state,,Idahosa,now a fruit seller,,my God are things so rough with him,,,I couldn’t find sleep that night,,,the next day after work,I went by the shop,but he didn’t open,the other guy that sells close to him,said he didn’t come,I kept checking on him ,days went into weeks but he had stopped coming,probably ashamed,so I decided to stop going there, so that he could resume his sells,,,
It’s been four months, but I was still unsettled, I had prayed, but my heart was still longing for ID, I was certain,ID was the one I love,he offended me beyond imagination, yes he did, but true love is UNCONDITIONAL,, even in his imperfections, I still loved him,,,my friends, Jason,Sandra and Lanre were with me in all these,,, Jason Came up with an idea,let him be the one to locate ID, since he doesn’t know him as my friend.I gave the description of the shop,Jason was always going there to buy fruit,they are both from Benin, and they easily became friends,,,apparently ID stopped coming just so I could stop looking for him,he was too ashamed of himself to face me,,,
Jason won his trust,and he narrated his situation to him,how he betrayed the only woman that loved him unconditionally, how sorry he is and all that.
Jason acted like he didn’t know, and asked him, what if she is willing to take you back,do you still love her,,, I didn’t stop loving her,I was only foolish,but I don’t want her to be with me,because she deserves someone better,he had told Jason..knowing that ID was still in love with me gave me the confirmation I needed…
Jason was able to convince him to man up, and take responsibility of his action, there wasn’t harm in trying he had told him,,,after much conviction,, ID had the courage to face me,,,
one Sunday evening,I was at Sandra’s,Jason had told him,when he came,he knelt down outside,and pleaded for forgiveness, I could see how sorry he was, he was truly repentant,,, what about May and your child with her,I had asked him,,,she had a still birth,, three weeks after she returned from the hospital, she left with her kids,leaving a note that she can’t go through suffering with me,I should find my life back,,I have been alone ever since,,,,
I looked at him,with forgiveness and joy in my heart,,I felt free and joy within as I held him up,I have forgiven you I had said.,he hugged me,with tears of joy in his eyes, I haven’t stopped loving you, you are my world he had said….
Jason ,Lanre and Sandra were happy for us,,,just then, Lanre and Jason tapped him,we are happy for you man,but if you hurt Ade,you would have us to deal with,Jason told him,,oh no,I shall love and protect her until my last breath, he said….
Days later,we all traveled to abuja,dad and mom at first didn’t want to see him,,but lanre,Jason and Sandra pleaded ,,,my father looked at me,Ade do you know what you are doing,are you sure this is what you want?mom asked. yes mom,I have prayed and I am convinced in my spirit that ID is my husband yet again,,,,my parent forgave him,,
ID refused to accept anything from dad this time,he said he wanted to start from the lowest level of life,so that he can appreciate wealth as it comes,,,dad was impressed,nevertheless,he assisted him in getting a job,while I remained the CEO of my father’s company….. After some months, ID was able to make some money,and we signed our marriage certificate again….
His family were very glad I had come to their family again,,,omonabiese,imose,obokhian,Iye and baba had warmly received me yet again.
And today is our 25 years anniversary,with three lovely kids Raymond, Peace and Desmond, ,,,,, as promised, ID has been a blessing,his love for me has been amazing,as I reminisce about the past,I can’t help but smile and thank God for making me VICTORIOUS.,,
I now run an NGO speaking and fighting for ladies who are helpless in their home,,and those going through what I had went through.with my husband solidly behind me,,,,
It’s the Lord’s doing,and the Lord has been Faithful.
GOD BLESS AND KEEP YOUR HOMES.
THE END….