…….I started praying for God to change my husband, but the more I prayed,the deeper ID fell,he started sleeping out,I begged him severally, talked to him,did all I know to do,but none seems to be working….
ID left the house one Friday,only for him to come back Monday evening,,, I was really furious, he had left the house without thinking what the baby,and I nor even his sisters would eat,,,it was ,Itohan,one of his sisters that had made food with her money ,ID will not give me money,and he wouldn’t allow me work,,,, I was living worse than the maids in my father’s house,,,,ID had made me forgotten whose daughter I am,I had lost my self esteem,I was looking very unkempt, I couldn’t make my hair,I had become someone else,,, I poured out my heart to him in anger,,,oh I am human,and I have limit,,, what in heaven’s name is your problem, why have you taken the place of God in my life,detecting every aspect for me,,, what did I do to you, idahosa,tell me,what have I done to have deserve all these from you,,,
Ade, I am tired, so get your stupid self out of my presence,,, he said, I will go nowhere, enough of all these,,, what has come over you, whattttttttt? a slap shut me up,ID didn’t stop there, he gave me some more slaps,pushed me to the sofa,and made me a punching bag,,,it was the timely intervention of his sisters that saved me,,,,,they were very mad at him,,,but of course they could do little,because he is their elder brother,, I slept in the living room with my baby,I was too shocked to move,I never imagined ID hitting me so bad,,,
The next day,Itohan went to Benin, to inform their parents what beast ID had become,,,,they came back with her the following day,,,ID came back from work and was surprised to see his parents around,,,, he greeted them but they ignored him…
Young man,what is wrong with you,what is your problem, and from whom did you learn to hit a woman,I have been married to your mother for over 35 years, and I have never hit her,,,so who thought you that, if you have picked up boxing as your hobby,your wife shouldn’t be your punching bag… Baba,how can you jusssssss(he tried to speak),you will shut up and allow me finish,,, how can you bit a finger that has fed you,how ungrateful can you be,,what is your problem, is it the little money you think you have that has made you forgotten who you are,,,what ever you think you are,is only possible, because of this woman, pride is always the mother of downfall,,,,
Baba you and Iye,have no right to come to my house and teach me how to run my hommmm(a brain setting slap from his father stopped him),,when a man acts and behaves like a child, he’s then treated like a child,,, his father said…
Idahosa,what is wrong with you,his mother started, I can’t believe you are my son,,,is this what Money can do,,,one thing about the top is that,if you are not careful up there, you will fall drastically to the ground,,,Osa blessed you through your wife, because a man that finds a wife finds a good thing,,, but do not cause her pain,,,because her tears touches the heart of God. My son, your father and I didn’t raise you up this way, you have become something else,,,but you can still retrace your steps and make amends,,, you cannnnn,,,while she was still talking ID took his car keys and drove off……
His parents stayed for two more days,but ID didn’t come home,so they headed back to Benin…..
His sisters soon rented an apartment and left the house,, I pleaded with them not to go,but all to no avail,,,, Itohan, Osas,,,please stay with me, how can you two leave me alone in this house,,,, Aunty Ade,,we can’t stay here, our brother has become something else, and we honestly can’t seat and allow him treat you the way he does,it hurts us so much that we can’t do anything to save the situation,,,, when our brother is back to his senses we shall come back.. Then they left,,,,I felt helpless,like I was alone in the middle of a sea ... .but I can’t run away from my home, my husband’s place is where I belong..,.
ID didn’t change, even when his sisters left,,,,he doesn’t come home,,,when he does, he’s always on his own,,,,I was scared of him,at that point, I just stayed away from him and his business, I serve his food before he gets back,he eats when he feels like, talks to me only when necessary,he had stopped sleeping in our bedroom,,, we were like two strangers living in the same house,,, there were times I went to bed in tears,,,but my little boy was my strength, I focused on him,I was too busy loving my immeasurable gift of a child, that I stopped killing myself over ID, I love myself again, and I was determined to live above been the victim,,,, I am ADEBOLA ADEWALE,,I am my father’s daughter,I refused to be reduced to nothing, I picked up the pieces of my life and I was ready to face life head up,,,,
In all I didn’t stop praying,my kneels were my war tool,,,
I knew this battle was bigger than me,,,in as much as I was trying to be happy, my true happiness will be for my family to be whole again…..
One afternoon I was going to the supermarket to get some items for my child, when I saw my husband and Sandra coming out of a Hotel laughing…